DAYS LATER BIRTH BY C-SECTION WITH FIRST CHILD, WHY IT WAS MY CHOICE?

I guess it was this mother's instinct! My delivery day was supposed to be March 27,2011 and just what do you know, I was over a week late. The doctor's had set me up to get induced at "Winnie Palmer Hospital" in Orlando, Florida on the following Sunday night on April 3rd, 2011 at 9 pm. It's funny I thought it was a strange day to get induced and especially the time of night. I was so anxious already and overly exhausted from awaiting to see the beautiful angel me and my husband created and I was starting to worry more and more on the pain Imma have to indure and go through for such a blessing. My bags were packed and ready weeks in advance already so it was April 3rd, 2011 and me, my husband, and good neighbor and friend, Juney, had wanted to join us in the delivery room for her experience also seeing a live birth on the other side of the fence besides delivering her own so I decided that could be a great idea because I could have pics taken of my live delivery in the birth room as it was happening.
It was 9pm and I arrived at the front desk to get checked in and escorted to my
room on the fifth floor to get induced, or least I thought. Instead of recieving my gown to get changed into the very first thing I was handed was a menu, lol. I did tell the nurse I thought I couldn't eat anything so I skipped dinner and so the nurse said that it would be few hours before I even get induced and it was last call if I wanted to order anything by 10pm, so I indulged in my free room service and ordered everything I possibly could order. It was not even until 3am in the morning before I even got induced and it was already beginning to feel like a long night and I was beginning to get frustrated and my stomach was feeling so huge and tight and it was hard to rest. In the meantime after I had ate the doctor and nurses kept sticking me with all kinds blood work, pills, and waking me up almost every other hour i was so exhausted and even more frustrated with all the interruptions as I waited for the inducing remedy to actually start kicking in for me to start dilating which took up until Tuesday at 4:20am in the morning when my water broke after I finally did start to fall asleep. Then it was almost up to 20 hours later that I reached the dilating number lucky seven when I started to break out with a one hundred one fever, ohh boi!
It's now been almost close to 22 hours I been in labor, I was now starting to not be able to feel my back too much except in the lower left hand side I was getting extreme labor pains with the topped off fever. I was in agony and started to feel lightheaded when I started really hearing this women in the next room who was delivering a natural birth screaming like someone was chopping at her for minutes like she was in the scariest horror film anyone could ever bear to hear or watch. Her sounds even terrified me even more and with hours of labor and me not dilating I felt something would terribly go wrong since I had not much feeling in my back since I was given so much pain meds and epidurals and nothing seemed to ease my pains while I was not dilating any further and my fever going up, that's when I begged the doctor's to get her out of me and give me a C-Section. They were trying to convince me to have it try to have her naturally until they noticed my fever and my stomache was having contractions over contractions non-stop and it was getting harder and harder tightening up more and I wasn't even dilating any further. It was my instinct to tell them it's time for the this other type delivery and so they discussed it with the other doctor's and starting preparing me for surgery. Yes, I was terrified either way but in my heart I felt something wasn't right going natural with the epidurals and it was just taking too long and things with my body was getting worse, It was in my mind this mother's nature.
My husband started really getting silent and looked very worried that I had chosen to do this but I had to explain my reason to him that I felt in was in the best interest for the baby to be alright coming out more then anything then my own life at that moment. Finally getting off to the emergency surgery room, my friend now had to leave and couldn't do the pics of my live birth since I wasn't having her the way planned because now in minutes of starting after the surgery my husband was the only one allowed in the operating room. I was beginning to get little more sedated with drugs to ease my pains and I remember as I was fading in and out, there were like 17 or more doctor's and nurses in the room with me for delivery during surgery but with the fact of my fever on hand and then my heart rate dropping low they needed to call about 10 or more doctor's down, especially after I started feeling them picking at my skin on my stomache I had felt some of the surgery tested on me so they needed other doctor's guidance to numb me even more after 3 Epidurals given they were directed to try giving me a Spinal also which thank the Lord, it worked and they began to get the baby out.
Pulling and tugging through the numbness, it's a little girl ! What a blessing, she was 8lbs, 2.4 ounces and 21 inches. Wow, I was so glad I chose to deliver this way even though I had complications through the delivery after and had to stay 6 days total in the hospital. I had lots of blood loss, had to have a cathetor in me, my heart-rate fluctuated and on certain days went too fast and then went too low. I was scared to death afterwards. I was constantly still being disturbed by nurses every hour on hand giving meds to get my certain body levels up or down. They made me get out of bed immediately few hours after the operation on the same day and expected me to walk and excercise with them in there. I was pissed at the nurses and doctor's for this, but they suggested it was part of recovery and it had to be done right away. They expected me to right away get up and try to go and walk to the bathroom while holding on to the wall with the damn cathetor hanging out of me while my insides or organs felt like they were ripped out and I was a character cut open while still alive from one of the "Saw" movies. Still, going through all this though I knew this was the right thing to do because besides my daughter's Formula issues and Colic problem, she was certainly worth all the pain now looking into her eyes. Above you will see a picture of my beautiful little angel, "Ariana Carol Jean Everett", the world's future star. Feel free to comment and click on Follow above and join in my world, Mommy diaries and let's share stories through my days in raising babies....

Raising Baby,
Carol J. Everett

THE DAY I LOST IT, WHAT IS IT?....MARCH 31, 2011

MARCH 31ST, 2011 today it is, as I'm residing in Orlando, Florida and It's the day that I just lost it, the mucus plug, ewwwwwwwww! It is such a miserable day here on mother nature's fury in giving my new residing town last 2 days of 70 miles an hour winds and all day and night tornado warnings and watches which did show signs of small ones in certain parts of Florida. Yesterday, I actually seen half the white picket fence in front of my room get taken across the pool ripped off and the big huge pool bulbs tossed across the lawns. This norning they said the weather was gonna be worse then yesterday's showdown but i beg to differ from what i wtnessed yesterday but, I was just more freaked out this morning when my husband had to leave for work in this and me being alone and pregnant by myself, I really miss my fam back home in instances like these especially being pregnant, but living here now and with all these states having issues in bad dangerous weather I'll learn to manage.
Today though I new something else was odd I happened to just wanna stay in bed as I felt really sluggish and more weaker with all this added weight and back pains which has me walking in a hunchback position with my stomach sagging low at it's lowest peak as some like to have their pants sagging low making their statements at certain points in the day recently, my baby girl was starting on callling her shots lol. My husband got in today at 3 o'clock and he was little surprised I guess to see me still in bed that late especially when sometimes I go and meet him coming home most of the time but I just couldn't get up and out. After about twenty minutes after he came in I said to my husband, "I don't feel so great today, just maybe if I take a shower I'll feel better", so I got up out the bed. It was about close to four o'clock and as I was about to turn the shower on I felt this weird two globs oozy out of me, lol I know I'm being graphic and believe me for the first time pregnant chicks it is gross to the eyes, it even grossed my hubby out, lol. Thinking of it to a description it was exactly how some told me that it would be which some said it was like someone blew glob of boogers out their nose, that indeed by then, we new I lost the telltale sign the little bugger is on her way soon to leak the next step of the blessing of breaking the water, haha. Anyway Imma keep some things short and simple in my journal diaries in mommy files in trial to errors but stay posted on the next writing, it may not be everyday cause I'll be very busy, but I'm be glad to share more stories as new mommying my way.

Raising Baby,
CAROL-J Style!

THE PRELUDE: NEW MOM DIARIES, 2 DAYS OVERDUE

"HERE ABOVE IS A ULTRASOUND PIC OF MY LITTLE GIRL AT 7 MONTHS IN THE WOMB, WOW, THIS IS DIFFERENT THESE DAYS IN THE ULTRASOUND PICS THEN FROM BACK IN THE DAY, MY LIL ANGEL"

"WELCOME 2 ALL LADIES, NEW MOTHER'S, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY #1 FANS, THE ALREADY MOM'S WORLDWIDE, I SHARE WITH YOU IN MY SUPERMOM HERO JOURNAL TO THE NEW MOM DIARIES"! THE TRIAL 2 ERRORS IN TRYING THE BEST WE CAN IN PLANS TO RAISE OUR BEAUTIFUL LIL MINI WE'S, I SHARE MY WORLD IN RAISING MY FIRST BORN, CAROL-J EVERETT STYLE!


Ok! I admit, I'm married, stressed, probably driving my husband insane, and my first daughter to be is 2 days overdue from out the oven! Ouchhhh, it's really gonna get hot down there now, Ariana, you little devil. Due, March 27th, 2011 she is seeming to be a stubborn one like like her mommy,and likes to come out in this world it seems when it's on her terms, the beauty of another me. Lol, I just hope since she's born late she won't grow up late for her events like her mommy too which I was always so known for, not such a great trait to bear, but the point being is no mother on this earth is completely perfect. This blog site is a small but, important piece of my life in learning "Trials-2-Errors" in new or already mommyhood to share with other mother's and also welcoming father's too worldwide. I never thought of the labor part of this scene in my life until my seventh month in being pregnant that there's pain in the pushings of wanting a baby. I been labeled a "high risk" pregnancy by the doctor's becasue of my epilepsey and I been getting really emotional and freaked out if I could possibly make it out ok with no seizures, panick attacks, hemmorages, or any other complications in delivering. I mean there's already so many changes in the body within the weight, back pains, baby pushing down on the bladder little pains, and just wondering if I'll be a good enough mom and if I'll be good enough for her and not have her feel non-supported or left out in any way. Don't get me wrong, regardless of some of the neglect I felt from my own parents as a child and not having the same treatment as my brother and sister in the chances of a lifetime they get but, I do feel they do deserve it and more, I still love them all to death and I want them to have to not feel in some of the ways I did in the ways I felt I needed them and am happy my parents give them little more time to them now then they did on me as their first. They say they were young at the time I was born blah blah blah, there's always excuses to the why this or that was done. Parents I must say do happen to have trial and errors in raising totally happy kids, I know in my fear of having a child and me not so perfect I will make mistakes, but I just pray and hope me and my daughter will have a understanding of eachother, respect, and open communication in things that effect us both as parent and her as child and work on our issues to be a happier family then most. Ok, enough of this chatter for now and I would like to thank all the doctor's who created books on childcare and raising a newborn. Most people would say I never read a book on rasing a child, it's trial and error. Wow, I hate thinking that some parents learn like that honestly especially the new moms out there. A baby is just more then "trial and error" or learning on new mommy duty, they are supposed to be on schedules, have special ways to feed, nurse, change, and tend to their needs so don't skip on information on their behalf. This all explains why so many kids are out of control, have bad sleeping habits, and get sick alot. If I didn't read many books while pregnant I already found many mistakes I done in setting up her nursery since I don't have my momthers but was able to fix it because of the learning I done. Again, I like most will most likely make some mistakes along the way, just please to the new mommy's out there or those that plan on being a real good mother's in better understanding what it means to have a child, please read just a little, think about the newborn more these days, for now Im going to leave on that note and will be sharing in my new motherhood trials to tribulations in raisnig my daughter, Ariana. Feel free moms to comment below and click follow in upper right hand corner of this blog in your thoughts and share some of your ideas or stories with the rest of us heroic moms and new moms to be, especially much respect and props to all the single wonderful moms raising children that seem to make them so proud. Trial-2-Error diaries in what works and what don't.

Raising Baby 2011-2012,
CAROL-J STYLE!